Blue Toenails and Courage
Actually the exact color is an OPI hue called “Fly.” I choose it, or a similar color, for every pedicure. Blue toenails are rather odd and sometimes folks comment on them. That’s when I explain that I paint them blue so when I look at my feet, I can say, “The sky’s the limit!”
This self-talk is just another way I remind myself that my “resistance” is strong. And I need all the help I can get to push past it.
Let me back up a bit and tell you about a book: War of Art by Steven Pressfield. In it he explains what keeps so many of us from doing what we long to do and identifies the roadblocks that exist in any creative endeavor. Steven is a prolific writer and knows all too well how we let ourselves be overcome by the naysayers renting space in our minds. Those voices, or naysayers, he identifies as the resistance. Sadly, letting the resistance win means playing it safe and comfortable. And no art happens in that cushy environment.
Ask Seth Godin. He writes about the resistance quite often and in one blog post describes resistance as the lizard brain. “The resistance is the voice in the back of our head telling us to back off, be careful, go slow, compromise.“
Right now I’m in an all-out battle with the resistance. I have loudly and publicly committed to creating a new podcast, Women Rocking Wall Street. I am passionate about helping the financial services industry engage and embrace more women in our ranks–and particularly in leadership roles. But moving forward on that effort is obviously challenging. Who am I to be a voice for this effort? What will I say? What value can I possibly add? Boy oh boy, my lizard brain is loud these days.
Many, many times in my career and life, I’ve had to push myself to jump across some chasm of fear. Sometimes the jump requires just a tiny hop. Other times–like right now–I feel like Evel Knievel on his Skycycle X-2 flying across the Snake River Canyon.
Why am I sharing this? Perhaps this is my way of acknowledging that I plan to feel the fear and do it anyway. (And I am guessing that you are challenged by the resistance in your life and work.)
A quote by George Addair sits right above my computer monitor: “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Yep, George is right.
P.S. Here’s a great, five-minute videocast from the crew at Kajabi on their approach for managing the resistance.